- TAKE A DIFFERENT LOOK-

It has been 9 months now that I lived abroad and I've learnt a lot of things. Good and bad experiences, hard times, unforgettable moments, laughter's and tears. But the most important for me is that I've learnt to enjoy life again. My friends and the people with who I spent my time in New York and San Diego and everything I've been through gave me the inspiration to write again. 

First of all this is not only about me this is about what I want to share with you, how to look different at things in life. Maybe it can help you, not literally but maybe it can change the way you think at the moment, like it changed mine.

It's so important to enjoy the things you do, whatever it is. Even just a coffee or a nap. You are alive so you are living a life but are you really LIVING your life? If you want to achieve something in life you have to do something for it, because these things will not solve themselves. This is what you can't change about life but almost everything else is in your own hands. 

Don't think the baddest of people but keep just in mind that not everybody is as saint as you want them to be. Trust but don't depend 100% on someone. Try to do things alone for one time, look how independent you are. Challenge yourself. Try something different without judgements because you never know if you haven't try before. Learn to say NO, because you don't want it and learn to keep going after something you want, say YES I want it, without being scared. 

Did you fail? Don't regret it, don't feel bad about it because it already happened so why this stress for? Try again but this time with more effort.

Don't waste your time with what people think about you. You know yourself and the people you care about know who you are so what does it matter what random people think about you? Does it changes anything? You are still who you are and what other people think is just history.  Don't care that much only know your responsibilities and do what you have to do, but don't care about useless things. Most of the time those things give you the most stress and stress makes you tired. Tired of everything, stress gives you negative energy and ensures the conflicts  you make with the people you love.  Because mostly the people who loves you are the ones who are next you when you really need someone.  Those useless conflicts are the reason for useless fights with the people you care about. Don't let stress take control over you. 

Do the things you like and practice your hobbies. I know we never have time for those things so that's why I'm telling you: MAKE TIME FOR IT.

A day without doing anything that will help you, grow you or make you feel happy, is a day wasted. It makes me feel so bad after a day doing nothing. It doesn't matter how old you are at every age it's possible to learn something. It's even possible to learn something everyday.

I guess knowing how to do something is easier than knowing a person. We say too fast that we know someone, but when do you really know a person you've just met? When can you call someone your friend? Isn't there a difference between people you just know and your actual friends? Yes, there is. Don't say that you know someone too fast. Because most of the times we don't. Everyone can keep surprising you sometimes in good ways but most people are disappointment. That's how it is in life. Maybe you have a lot of 'friends' but when you think about it, the people you can call your friends are just a few people that you can count in one hand, and actually that's not bad. It's a good thing! 

A lot of people are scared of having big dreams, they are afraid to fail. Because failing hurts and it scares them off. When you have dreams it means you want to change something, it means that there is a lot of things that you don't want like it is now. Dreams are like happiness, because dreaming about something, looking forward to something that you like makes you happy. So go after it, happiness is a blessing that God gave us. If you only keep dreaming you won't get anywhere. Actions bring you somewhere, maybe sometimes it's not how you expected it from the first time, but when you keep going after it, you will get what you want. No matter what it is. It's all about being positive and believing in yourself. If you think this is bullshit, than you don't dream big enough or you just don't believe in yourself, and I guarantee you, that's not to way to achieve your goals. I believe that everything starts with yourself and with how confident you stand in your shoes. 

We, humans, we always try to blame someone or something, but the real thing is that nobody ever wants to see, realize or accept that the point all started with themselves. It's easier to blame it on something or someone.

Here is the point; life is like Ying and Yang. There is the  bad, the good. The bad in the good and the good in the bad. You just have to find your balance, that's why life is a challenge! 

Merve,